I signed up for a dating site. Date #1 was a no-show. Date #2 didn’t seem interested. Date #3 was fascinating, but eventually it was obvious she wasn’t interested.
There was a #4, but we never set up a date. We had some nice email conversations. I don’t know if she lost interest or is just too busy.
What I discovered is that:
- It’s an emotional roller-coaster
- I need to stay true to myself
- Looking for someone is the best way to never find them
It was hard for me to be happy while actively seeking someone. I was willing to give up my car-free, tv-free lifestyle. I think I was going about it all wrong.
I’ve closed my dating site accounts. I’m going to remain car-free and tv-free, not because of any “greater calling”, but because that’s what I want.
A friend told me to “be true to yourself”. I will. I’m going to live my life. Maybe I’ll find someone to share it, maybe I won’t Either way, I can be happy being me.
Not dating means I’m more productive and less stressed. So be it.
Aww, Dave, I’m sorry you have had a rather rotten experience with these recent dates. It is so tough to put yourself out there, I know. Be true to yourself and your very excellent car-free and t.v.- free lifestyle, relax and let things happen natually. I met my boyfriend in a swimming class at a junior college 11 years ago. I was freshly divorced and absolutely not looking for love, just to get out of the house and get some exercise.
You live in Louisville, right? I would think there would be clubs, classes, lessons, group activities for you to enjoy, to get out of the house and meet new people of both genders. A photography class? Art class? Gardening? Look at your local Y or park district for ideas. Summer is coming! Look for a horseshoe tossing league. Or a walking club? Just try to enjoy yourself, and good luck!