I mentioned a while ago that I joined a dating site. I haven’t actually had a date yet. I had one (let’s call her T) that stood me up – probably for valid reasons. There were two more who weren’t interested once they found out I don’t own a car. Never mind that I don’t need them to run me around. I’m quite self-sufficient.
There are still two more, M and L. M is fascinating. She’s also found this blog, so of course I’ll say good things about her. 😀 I haven’t met her in person, so who knows what first impressions we’ll have with each other. L is less interesting, but I’m supposed to meet her tomorrow evening. She doesn’t know I don’t have a car yet. We’ll see how that turns out. I’ll be taking a bus to meet her.
I spent most of the weekend in the house. Tim, Timothy, and Patrick headed out yesterday for a camping trip and gravel ride.. I didn’t go. My ongoing neck issue meant no gravel riding. Although they were quite cold, I’m still jealous.
I wanted to go to Four Pegs for food and beer today. I still had a lot of housework to do today. I negotiated with myself. If I did the dishes, I could go to Four Pegs, so I did the dishes. I walked to Four Pegs – I haven’t been on a bike since Friday.
I got into an interesting conversation with a woman bicyclist at Four Pegs. Let’s call her Z. Z is gay. So, I’m out of the running. However, she actively tried to set me up with her friend, D. It was obvious D wasn’t interested. Z didn’t give up. It was really quite embarrassing. That’s the first time that a stranger tried to “hook me up”.
Oh, and Z knows somebody in common with M… but I won’t get further into that, or somebody will figure something out and get weird… or not. Louisville isn’t that big.
This dating thing kind of sucks. Most people (including me) want somebody to have a connection with, to have a partner, to have someone to be affectionate with. That’s the easy part. It’s all the other stuff that makes it complicated. Lifestyle, TV shows, cars, beer, music, physical activity, and just normal stuff like attitude, tone of voice, and body language.
Let’s not forget the weird dance we do. I am looking for a long-term thing, but you don’t just go out and say, “Hey! You! – you’re attractive and seem nice, will you marry me? What’s your name by the way?” Some people already know each other before they get involved. That’s they way Cindy (my first wife) and I were. We knew each other since kindergarten. That makes it a lot easier.
M likes email (as do I), which means we’ve had several long exchanges. That also means they come once a day at best. It takes a while to write it all.
L likes texting. Very little is said in each text, but you can have many in a short period of time.
I really prefer one-on-one conversation, but I haven’t got there with any of them yet, except Z’s friend D, who cut it quite short.
I’m not sure I can handle trying to talk to strangers with the intent of finding “the one”. I’ll continue for a while, but eventually I’ll give up and go back to not worrying about it. Too bad I already paid Match.com for three months.